Hi All. I could really do with some advice. My partner and I have been together for 7 years and have a 4yo DS. During COVID, and to a certain extent before I’ve become very resentful of him. He works shifts which mean I’m basically a single parent for more than half of the week. He’s always hated his job, but despite me doing everything I can to help him change, issuing ultimatums, he’s still there. He’s miserable, and I’ve exhausted myself trying to make him happy. I also feel like I’m his Mum as I do most of the cooking, bill paying, carrying the mental load of our day to day lives etc.
I’ve said very little up until now because I’m terrified of confrontation, but recently became so worried and anxious that I made myself ill. I’ve said that I want to separate, which he’s agreed to, but isn’t happy about. I feel like I’m tearing our family apart. It’s so difficult, complicated, and painful.
Anyway, I could really do with some advice folks. I realise that I’ve been a bit of a doormat in all of this.