What Child care arrangements do you have?

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Just need some examples. Wife wants to separate I don't. Saying I have to leave. Won't discuss childcare options, so I am going to offer a proposal in writing to her with a couple of options.

Just want to see what works for others.

We will be living very close to each other..

If you are going to close together that will assist with childcare massively as the Dc can when older walk between houses etc.

How old are the kid/s? What role do both parties have now in childcare?

We did 50/50,4 nights one week 3 nights the other. DSS chose not to have weekends as that didn’t suit her… DSS would go Sunday evening till Thursday AM one week to his mums, the next Mon PM to Thursday AM.

DSS mum chose not to

Sorry to hear that. I think every other weekend plus maybe a couple of days in the week with you (on the weekends you don’t have the kids) - think that’s quite reasonable

Don’t leave the house OP.
See a solicitor ASAP.
In any case don’t even think to leave the house till you’ve talked to the solicitor.

@Bonheurdupasse

Don’t leave the house OP. See a solicitor ASAP. In any case don’t even think to leave the house till you’ve talked to the solicitor.

I can't afford a solicitor

@Sunshinedaisymeadowsxx

If you are going to close together that will assist with childcare massively as the Dc can when older walk between houses etc.

How old are the kid/s? What role do both parties have now in childcare?

We did 50/50,4 nights one week 3 nights the other. DSS chose not to have weekends as that didn’t suit her… DSS would go Sunday evening till Thursday AM one week to his mums, the next Mon PM to Thursday AM.

Dd is 6. We are both female.

I am the homemaker and work part time, 3 days a week. Stbx works full time.

@Sunshinedaisymeadowsxx

If you are going to close together that will assist with childcare massively as the Dc can when older walk between houses etc.

How old are the kid/s? What role do both parties have now in childcare?

We did 50/50,4 nights one week 3 nights the other. DSS chose not to have weekends as that didn’t suit her… DSS would go Sunday evening till Thursday AM one week to his mums, the next Mon PM to Thursday AM.

Daughter is 6. We're both female. I work part time 3 days a week and stxw works full time.

We both do equal shares of child care

Or you could try talking to your wife. Sounds like a breakdown in communication. Presumably she isn't wanting to leave just to spite you. And please don't make a bid for 50 50 just because it's your right...maybe think what's truly best for your DC.

When my friends (same sex relationship) separated and divorced recently, there seemed to be focus on who gave birth to the children in terms of who had rights, ie my friends wife gave birth to both so my friend in her words had “father” rights, rather than equal rights in the eyes of the law.
Personally in your position I’d hang tight and not move out of the martial home. If your wife wants you out, then she should move