I am separated from my stbxh but still living in the same house pending a court case. We have an ongoing stalemate regarding access to our 3 children ages 15, 13 and 11. I feel so frustrated with this and would like to ask for your unbiased opinions.
He works 12 hour shifts 7-7. Leaves at 6:30 and usually home by 7:30
Week 1 - 4 days, Sun, Mon, Tue & Wed
Week 2 -3 days, Sun, Mon & Tue
I work 5 days a week 9-5 with some flexibility and take AL and PL to cover non-school days that he is working.
I have proposed access schedule based on his work schedule. So if he is working Wednesday pick up/kids go to him after school (3-4pm) on Thursday. If he is off on Wednesday, the pick up would be on the Wednesday. They would be back to me on Saturday apart from 1 weekend a month where I would get a full weekend to enable us to visit family down the country.
The sticking point is that he is insisting that pick up time is after he finishes work on Tue or Wednesday from my house. My issue is that I feel that is too late after getting settled in my house. Also they do activities during the evening (one of them has a sport from 7-8pm on Wednesday) so are not actually available at his proposed pick up time!
I'm so annoyed at his sheer belligerence insisting on this disruption. He hasn't justified it in anyway, just keeps repeating the same demand. I feel worn down by it but reluctant to sign up to an access schedule that is disruptive and stressful for all involved.