Cms - income by way of gifts

[Fluffyhairteddy]

Hello everyone.

Can anyone help? My ex quit his job over a year ago and has since reduced payments to zero. I’m really struggling to raise our 2 children with no CM. My ex has everything paid for - rent, holidays and car etc paid for by his v wealthy parents thereby avoiding ‘income’ for purposes of cm. does anyone know if there is any way of counting these “gifts” as income? It’s so disheartening that he is living life of Riley. . Thank you.

I don't know. But hopefully, he will get his just rewards when his children judge him for putting himself before them.
My ex lives alone in a massive posh house (making regular unsuccessful appeals against what child maintenance he has been ordered to pay) - his children choose to see him very rarely, preferring to stay with me in my scruffy, cramped abode! While it's not always easy, this is your chance to show your children that money isn't everything and human decency doesn't have a price.

What Twillow said so eloquently.

Sadly CMS is a blunt tool and barely fit for purpose. If your ex doesn’t want to pay for his children then he’ll find a way around it, especially with a well off family.

The best way to beat him is to try and get yourself into a position where you don’t need his money, and his withholding of it is of no consequence to you. That way you can show him how truly irrelevant he is - the worst thing any selfish twat could ever believe is that they really don’t matter.

You are faced with a wall of fucked up op.

The parents of a grown man are paying for everything. He is their big, hairy man-baby.

Meanwhile, the man-baby's children get nothing.

The fact that man baby and man-baby Mummy and Daddy think this is ok means you are better off without them.

He is a proper looser. I am sorry for the damage he is doing to you and your kids

Thank you for all the responses. Yes it’s shit.

Any lawyers around. Do I have any means of redress to somehow class the gifts as income

No I don't think there is any way this could count as income.