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Exh wants to take furniture out of our marital home whilst I'm away on holiday. Can he do this?

15 replies

theworldsbiggestcrocodile · 21/07/2021 18:41

STBEXH has messaged to say he wants to come to the house next week whilst I'm on holiday to take a few items such as a TV and some kitchen bits.
He still owns the house (with me) and is paying the mortgage if that's relevant and still has a key.
I've said I would rather he didn't.
Can he legally enter the house and take things whilst I'm not there?

OP posts:
IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 21/07/2021 18:43

Yes.

MichelleScarn · 21/07/2021 18:45

It is, he could still actually live in it I think? Have you agreed what he's taking?

DogsSausages · 21/07/2021 18:47

Are there any restrictions on him entering the house like a restrain order, do the items he wants belong to him, is he reasonable and honest enough to make a list of what he wants and just take those things, can he collect them before you go away. What were you planning to do with the house while you're away if he still has a key.

Mintjulia · 21/07/2021 18:55

I suggest you move anything you value and regard as your personal possessions, before you go.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 21/07/2021 18:57

I'd install a camera tbh, but then my ex is a nasty pos.

theworldsbiggestcrocodile · 21/07/2021 20:40

He's given a list. I thought that might be the answer. He hasn't lived there for over a year-it will just feel strange him being there without me there. The split isn't amicable but I don't think he would go and gut the place. At least I hope not.

OP posts:
NoSquirrels · 21/07/2021 20:47

Anyone you can ask to be there to let him in? (If it’s privacy you’re worried about)

DogsSausages · 21/07/2021 20:51

If you dont want him in the house can you pack the things up and put them in the garage, he may feel strange being there too. Why dont you want him in the house, you wont be there.

30degreesandmeltinghere · 21/07/2021 20:52

Please arrange for a friend to be there or get a ring doorbell. You can watch what he takes!

theworldsbiggestcrocodile · 21/07/2021 22:00

No no one I can ask. Will
Just have to trust him. I've calmed down a bit now. It's actually fair enough I think and probably better if I'm not there for it in lots of ways
Thanks all

OP posts:
DogsSausages · 21/07/2021 22:08

Enjoy your holiday and try not to let this worry you

RandomMess · 21/07/2021 22:11

Haven't you lost your keys and changed the locks this week?

You could pass the items to a local friend?

DogsSausages · 21/07/2021 22:18

You cant just lock him out of his home and change the locks, bad advice.

MichelleScarn · 22/07/2021 07:16

@DogsSausages

You cant just lock him out of his home and change the locks, bad advice.
Very bad advice, if he's still on the mortgage/deeds he could do same, no to childish games like that.
RandomMess · 22/07/2021 07:51

Yes and he might whilst the op is away and she would have to go to court to gain access, the police won't get involved in a civil matter.

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