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(Bad day just wanted to talk) Just opinions over abandonment over child and the reason

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Lilly239 · 19/07/2021 14:26

Apparently it’s due to my ‘abusive behaviour’ that Ex has waled away from our child but nothing happened after our separation except the divorce etc , but we argued etc before the split hence why the divorce. I’m receiving counselling just over everything that has happened and I’ve posted before about this, I take full care of my child and make sure it doesn’t affect them , thankfully my ex wasn’t a hands on parent it’s not like child is crying for dad but it’s just not nice is it, I’ve tried all sorts saying I didn’t have to be involved one of the grandparents could intervene with visits I didn’t have to be seen , but I feel this is an excuse he is using because if he thought anything of child wouldn’t he be enquiring how they are?
If I was this ‘abusive person’ wouldn’t you want your child to not be with someone like that?- I also would like to note my ex has shown NO emotion or shown care towards child since separation AT ALL. and I guess I’m having a bad day I wanted to vent my feelings out, but to ask particularly do people believe in things like this if were
told to others this is why they not involved in a child’s life?- As if someone told me a partner for example was abused but he left the child in the process I would be saying why leave the child in a situation like that??? Can’t be that bad then if I’m ok to leave the child in my care.
I’m sure I’m not the the only person that an ex who has abandoned their child uses this excuse?
I was just curious xx

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Lilly239 · 19/07/2021 14:34

Oh and just to note. No police records / no domestic violence nothing like that...

I’m just reaching out someone to talk to I don’t have a lot of family and my friends I don’t like to burden I just keep it all in - it’s just me and my child and although I’m strong for them and make sure everything is ‘normal’ sometimes inside I just need to vent to someone or just general chit chat / my counsellor through GP is only once a month and can’t afford private - but I know mumsnet is probably full of women in similar situations x💕

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