hi
I just need some advice and opinions please I will not be offended at all I need to know if I sound selfish?
So me and my husband separated last September. We have 2 girls together age 4 & 7. I moved to a completely different county for us both mainly him about 5 years ago for his job. I stayed at my job and just commute via the train everyday. I've always worked around my girls nursery and school so I am.at home in the evenings. I've put my career on hold to raise my girls so i have taken a job with alot less money which is fine, I love the job I have and I'm at home every weekend and every evening. He has always worked 9am-9pm kind of shifts with breaks in between. So to get to the point.... im earning about 14,000 per year before tax he's earning 30,000 a year. He was furloughed for all the lockdowns and was earning less but I still.worked through the lockdowns travelling to work daily however he still lived with us then. Since he moved out I agreed that moving is costly so we agreed That he would just too up.my food shop on a weekly basis, which he does somewhat because I buy food on a monthly basis anyway he takes the girls school every morning and picks them up 4 days out of the 5. He has them 2 nights a week Tues and weds so he only has them in the evenings after school. Whenever I have brought up.money I feel like I'm.nagging him because he then twists it around about his expenses and then I feel like I shouldn't moan. I'm currently living hand to.mouth but my girls dont go without. I pay 200 a month to travel to.work (I'm.still better off working than not) however he moans about petrol all the time. I think he should take the to school and collect them. I dont drive, I've never driven and I moved over 33 miles away from my friends and family for his job ( I did agree to it) I live in a rural area so public transport is not great either. Am I wrong to feel like he's fobbing me off? Am I wrong to feel like he should be doing more? He's a good dad when he's present his girls love him but why do I feel like it's unfair. He pays me.nothing but I feel guilty?
I apologise now for the grammatical errors.
Thank you for reading.