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Divorce/separation

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Advice needed

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Dreamingoftheocean · 03/07/2021 18:45

Hi - I’ve managed to get myself into a really difficult situation. I am pregnant and have a toddler, the relationship has never been great but it’s becoming intolerable. I think I have to leave because it’s having a negative impact on my health in every way and it’s not a great environment for children to be in. Obviously being pregnant makes things so much more difficult! We live in his flat. I don’t have a job as I became a SAHM when I had my child. I do have some assets and I know it would be a struggle but I have reached the point that I think anything would be better than this. I guess I am worried about whether it’s ok for me to just leave and sort out details later, where I would have to go is far away from where I currently live (a couple of hours) and so would that go against me at a later date in terms of custody? I don’t think he will be able to have any kind of conversation about the realities of this until I’ve actually gone. Any help or advice really appreciated because I feel so trapped and miserable.

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BunnyRuddington · 03/07/2021 19:01

If it's that bad, I'd just go. If he's violent, or potentially violent are you going to be able to leave without him realising?

Dreamingoftheocean · 03/07/2021 19:28

He’s very emotionally abusive - and we have had physical fights.
Just reading through what I have written makes me feel so sad that this is my life. I’ve wanted to be a mum for so long and he’s just made it the most awful experience.

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DuaLipaSuction · 03/07/2021 19:32

Does he work? Can you leave when he's not there or do you have any friends or relatives that will be able to come and stay with you and help you to move out?

I really wouldn't let him know yours going until you've gone.

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