Nesting... Can it work with one house?

[HeyGirlHeyBoy]

I'm wondering if people have managed to live part time, with separate bedrooms, in the same house post-separation? I'm just trying to think of the least disruptive thing for the dc.. I could move out for my non days, or come in later maybe.. Trying to feel out possibilities and would love to know if anyone else has worked out similar. I have no interest in meeting someone else in the near future so that's not a consideration for now, just the dc to think of.
Also having dinner together, holidaying, does that ever work? Even just Christmas Day say?

I'm not clear if you mean end your relationship but stay together in the same house, or you and h live part-time in the house, part elsewhere, without overlap. I think the first sounds miserable for everyone, the second could work if you and h can maintain a good relationship, though I have no experience of that setup.

SwanShaped I think you're probably more on the mark than I realise.. It's almost out of an exhaustion as well, at the whole thing, and then having to do the hard work of sorting housing arrangements etc.

Ria, I mean the first short term and then the second, again not long term.

Your kids with normalise whatever you make their normal be.

Well, yes, which is exactly why you shouldn't normalise dysfunction.

Very true. Currently they're normalising a fairly silent parent relationship, no affection etc. and despite my very best efforts perhaps a sense of u happiness for us both.

I think at the least, you'd together need to rent a small flat which you would alternate staying in. Ideally a 2 bed flat so you each have your own bedroom).

You'd have to be amicable enough to cope with sharing the space (even seperatly), house maintenance etc.

Mmm.. Yes that's true and I think maybe for a first while that could be an option.. It's hard, isn't it.. obviously the dc won't want anyone to go anywhere and it's expensive too..

User... your way isn’t the only valid way.

These kind of set ups can work well for some families.

Writing off anything that’s not heteronormative monogamous as damaging is bullshit

Kids can thrive in all kinds of environments as long as they are in no doubt of their love and support

My other worry, is that I think you said he seems a bit was keen on separating. So that would be hard to maintain. My sense is that it’s not the best idea for you and your kids. I can imagine you must feel exhausted. Maybe having your own space would help you be able to rest better.

Thank you for your kindness