How do you leave?

[Hightechlowbudget]

Everyone has arguments with their partner, right? But what tips a normal relationship into a broken relationship?
My partner and I have terrible arguments, he always forgives and forgets quickly but I brood and bear a grudge. I fantasise about leaving him when we fall out and then think thank God I didn't when we are getting on well. But the arguments always return.
We have had 3 huge blow ups over the past week and I am sick of the tension. I don't want to live like this anymore.
We have 2 teenagers. How do you go about making the break? What is the first step?

I think the first step is to work out where you will live and your finances. H ave you given any thought to this?

I work but don't have a massive salary, I could cover rent on a small house and bills but there wouldn't be much left for food etc. I would hope to stay in family home with kids & dog until it can be sold, but there is zero chance of him moving out.
I want to get to a position where partner accepts that this is where we are heading, so we can start to move towards that.

If he won't leave, perhaps you could leave & he would pay maintenance if the children went with you?

Either that or it's unfortunately my scenario where you live together until the legal stuff is sorted (20 more months of a dysfunctional home life, which I would not recommend).

Or stay with family?

Does he even know that you are so unhappy you're considering ending things?

Book a solicitors appointment to discuss the situation and get advice of your rights and what you may be entitled to. A lot of firms offer a 30 minute free initial appointment.

Only you know your situation regarding why your H cannot move out, but a solicitor will likely advise that if you opt to leave the marital home then this will put you on a weaker footing legally. With the benefit of hindsight, this is true.

Good luck OP, you’re starting to make a decision, and you make take weeks or months to act on it, and that is of course absolutely ok. What kept me going was the fact that I knew we would all be happier with exh and I apart.

Thank you for your advice.