How long does divorce take if court involved

[Adi1974]

Hello
I was wondering how long the whole process takes on average (a bit like how long is a piece of string?). We separated 2 years ago. My STBXH 'announced' what he was going to pay me, and said he wouldn't give spousal support or a penny more. He didn't give me that much. I left the FMH as he wouldn't, and I went into rented with the 2 kids. He is refusing to acknowledge that I didn't agree to any settlement, and we have been going round in circles. He re-mortgaged, and hid thousands of pounds in his mum's account. He refused mediation at the time, but has obviously been strongly advised to reconsider and is now pushing for it. If it works I will be amazed, if it doesn't we are off to court. Round 1 would be approx. 3 months from the application date. I feel emotionally exhausted and do not know how much longer I can cope with all of this. I know there are 2 sides to every story, and I have tried to see it all from his point of view, but to put it bluntly, he has always been financially and emotionally abusive and it has just ramped up. He has the house, (I stupidly signed the deeds over to him; I would have done anything to get away at the time and was really depressed), he earns 85k per year, and has a 97k pension (house worth about 425k (he has mortgage of 240k on it). I am out of work, have done a course so potentially could earn 30k tops, with a 3k pension. Any tips ort advice, greatly appreciated. TIA

BTW, I have filed an interest on the house at instruction of my solicitor so he cannot sell, or re mortgage without my permission. I will lift the lodged interest once this is all sorted.

What has your solicitor said?
If you dont have one, you need one.
Most offer free advice for an initial consultation.

Does he pay child maintenance? If not get that sorted.

My divorce took about 2 years, then we sold the house and that took another 9 months but lockdown 1 was in the middle of that.

Also beware what the solicitor quotes as legal costs. Mine were triple her quote.

How I paid it I dont know. Had to cut back to bare bones.

Hi RoseMartha

Thank you, I have a solicitor and a battered bank account! It's leaving me with very little, but got to be done. My ex is so difficult and says he would rather give the solicitors every penny he has rather than give me a penny.

Adi

Hi, I'm in a similar situation except luckily my Stbx moved out and I'm still in the marital home. I've recently applied to court and my solicitor said if it goes to all 3 hearings it will take a year! I applied around 5 weeks ago, waited a month and the court lost the paperwork so another month lost.

@Adi1974 yes they say things like that

My exh told me he would make it as difficult as possible and he did
What has your solicitor advised on the house situation?

@sophmum31 How annoying. Can sympathise. I had to submit something twice because the court lost it. Then they lost a document they had to send to my solicitor after finance order took about six weeks before they sorted it.

Sending a hug 🤗

It took roughly two years, the exh insisted on taking it to court as he was adamant that he was not paying me anything other then the £500 he so graciously gave me when I lived into a rental with our DD.

We had one session of mediation, it was very clear that he wasn’t going to change on anything so it went to court.

Good luck OP