Getting help with childcare arrangements

[Maximusk1]

Hi,

Is there a service that can help work out childcare arrangements to makes sure they are fair?

I am slap bang in the middle of a divorce and healing from emotional abuse so my head is all over the place and unfortunately managing a narc means that all of the offers put on the table by my ex only benefit him rather than being fair for us all.

I cannot use mediators as my ex does not want to pay. I just need someone that will help me only - that will take into account assets and my individual circumstances i.e living in the home.

I need the service to look over the current plan and assist to come up with a fairer one.

I'm not loaded but happy to pay for this service.

Thanks for any advice.

:)

The process I am about to undertake is.

1. Rework the proposal so it is fair as it does not consider the fact that I too work [What I am requesting assistance with ]

1. If he is still not happy take it to a mediator

1. Last result involve a solicitor

Unfortunately the resident parent cannot force the non-resident parent to take the children. There is nothing stopping the non-resident parent from flaking out on arrangements. It happens all the time and mothers are left to pick up the slack and run themselves ragged. That's why our careers often end up going down the toilet.

If your dealing with a nightmare ex, the only solution is to make your own arrangements with regard to childcare. You will be the only person you can rely upon.

Hi thanks , that is not the issue I am facing I just need an organisation that can help me put a proposal together that seems fair I will be crossing the bridge of whether he accepts it or not after.

@EvieAdams1 did you name change mid thread?

Why don't you start with a proposal of 50/50 childcare and see what his response is.