Child arrangements

[SpottyBlueTeacup]

Hi,
I filed for divorce in December and he moved out April. He hasn’t had the youngest child over at all in that time and the eldest (17) seems to go when he pleases but it mostly with me.
I love the kids dearly but need a break - I work full time and have no family. I also am trying to sort out the family home to put on the market.
He said his shifts are stopping him having them. I changed jobs to be available for the kids and lost my career. He didn’t.
I was hoping he’d have them every other weekend but no!
Is there anything I can do?

Youngest is 13

Ime? Enjoy your dc. And the fact that you don't have to share them with a tosser... And he can't be a bad influence if he doesn't see them.
His loss op. Truly.

At 13 and 17 you’re going into the stage where you have some freedom to go out and do your own thing and they don’t need to be babysat. I wouldn’t push a reluctant father to have contact for the purpose of you needing a break as he won’t stick to it and you’ll be forever changing your plans and being disappointed. Instead work on your DC being more independent from you and get your break that way.

You can’t force someone to be a parent .
If your ex is anything like mine , the less influence he has on your DC the better . Now adults , my DC have virtually no relationship with their Dad but a ( mostly) great one with me .