We've been unhappy for years but H would never discuss divorce.
Last year was shit. H was on furlough for 6 months, transferred to another department when he finally went back to work in November but then made redundant in Mid April. I ended up working harder than ever with no extra help in the home from him despite him effectively being on a paid holiday for 6 months !
I had planned to be brave and take action regards the divorce process in early 2020 but Covid got in the way although H knew I was intending to consult a solicitor and get things moving. He also knew it was on hold pending things improving as far as Covid was concerned. I mentioned it many times to him.
I was wondering why he hasn't been actively looking for any new work, calls from recruitment agencies simply don't get responded to, he's not networking at all.
Turns out he believes that if I go ahead with a divorce whilst he is claiming unemployment benefit, he'll be given a larger share of the financial assets due to his low level of income. He has therefore decided to have a "long summer holiday" for the second year in a row. He doesn't actually want to get divorced anyway so it's a win-win situation for him. Either I push ahead with plans and he plays on his reduced circumstances (he was in the £50,000 to £100,000 earnings bracket before redundancy) to maximise what he comes out with from the divorce financial settlement or I put up with him lazing around for months on end in the hope that he'll decide to find a job once his benefit entitlement runs out (which it surely must do at some point).
Does it work this way when it comes to assessing need when splitting financial assets ? I am sole go to parent for our teen dc. H does absolutely nothing for them. He does nothing for his own elderly parents either, he exists in a selfish little world of his own.