Life change after divorce

[Pyke]

Hi everyone,

Looking for examples from anyone who changed their life after divorce. I’m on the cusp of everything being finalised, looking for inspiration and hope for the future. Please let me know any big changes you made-moving, career change, doing something you always dreamed of etc. Inspiration please! And how did you feel when you’d done it?

I didn't have a massive life change as such... but while going though the divorce I made a "wish list" of things I wanted to do or try. In my case there was a lot of travelling or activity type stuff - as previously my ex had put a stop on all that sort of thing. My first time camping with the kids post divorce was a big thing and I felt great being able to give them that experience. I also took them to a music festival which is something we'd never have achieved before. I'm still working through the list (Covid has obviously put a kybosh on all the travel goals! LOL) but each time I tick something off I feel a big sense of relief that I'm no longer married to the person who had prevented me doing all these things.

I plan to finally decorate my house, my way. Go out more. Travel. Be myself.

Thanks both, yes it’s a good idea to do the things you felt like you couldn’t before. I’ve done lots of little things I wouldn’t have otherwise-they sound so small but are a big deal to me-camping out with all the mattresses and bedding in the living room, staying til dark on the beach with the kids, toasting marshmallows. My ex was so down about stuff like this that we didn’t do it, now I do with the kids :-)

I took them on holiday by myself recently and felt epic! Thanks for your ideas x

I think don’t fall into the trap of thinking you have to do something massive to prove yourself. Just do what makes you happy

Yes! Split from ex of 15 years in 2019. Since then I have got a new job with a £15k pay rise, lost 3 stone, moved into a lovely house which I've completely decorated and furnished beautifully and bought a brand new car. I honestly have never been this happy and you will feel the same too, I promise x

Thanks everyone! Good to see other ideas x

I've completely redecorated the house - and got cats!

I think for me it was realising that I really need to reevaluate what's important.

Although I did date after my divorce and subsequently had a two year relationship, which failed, I bought a flat, decorated it as I wished, had fertility treatment to become a solo-parent (currently 16 weeks pregnant). Having spent wasted 6 years with my ex husband, I became acutely aware of time -wasters and time-wasting activities, much easier when you aren't being cock-blocked!