Our financial order has been approved (hurray!) and all that is left now is to apply for decree absolute and get going with the house move. The plan is for him to buy me out and I have found a property nearby so the changes for our DS would be minimal and we are trying to work together to make this transition as easy as possible.
STBXH is now saying he might not have enough funds/borrowing potential to keep family home so might need to sell etc. As a way to keep things as they are and support my little one, I am considering lending him some money and/or taking a smaller share of the financial division so he can stay in this home.
Part of me thinks it is the right thing to do if it means my child stays in a familiar environment half of the time with his dad and then I'm just up the road. No changes to area, school, etc.
The other part finds it unfair that I am already taking what a believe the be a lower equity in the home, and might now give him extra money. Although I'm younger and earn much more (but not really a very high earner) my reason to divorce is due to his emotional abuse, always making me feel like the worst person in the world. Although lately he is better and we are getting on ok to make this process less painful, I don't think I will ever forget some of the things he did and said to me.
What would you do? Of course I'm trying to put my child first which is why I'm considering taking less money out of this divorce.