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Divorce/separation

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Husband refuses to discuss

5 replies

paddywaddymoorehen · 01/06/2021 08:55

I've just asked my husband for a divorce.

He's been emotionally and verbally abusive for a long time, we've been married 5 years, together 12 and have two young children.

He refuses to discuss money or the children and I guess it's all part of the control/abuse. He controls all the finances and has a business that according to him during his narcissistic boasting is worth a fair amount, I do know however that he will do anything to protect it from me and is probably trying to buy time to hide assets.

What rights do I have regarding the division of the business? It was set up before we were married but during our relationship, I worked for free for a couple of years to help him set it up and am now paid shareholder dividends despite being a stahm. The shareholder agreement has a clause that says if we were to divorce I would have to sell my shares at their nominal value. Would this mean I have no claim?

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paddywaddymoorehen · 01/06/2021 08:59

I also meant to say, where should I go from here? I have no clue and have completely lost my independence.

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tiredanddangerous · 01/06/2021 09:07

No one here will be able to help you with that one op, you need to speak to a solicitor for proper legal advice Flowers

mynameisbrian · 01/06/2021 09:18

Agree with PP, you need to seek legal advice.

Sorry but he sounds like someone who has covered himself legally, also I have no time for people who pay there wives 'dividends' for supposed work as it is simply tax evasion.

Your DH sounds very sharp so I have no doubt he has protected himself. Personally I wouldnt have mentioned a divorce with a man like that until I had gather evidence and spoke to a lawyer. Your not going to get any information from him so speak to a lawyer.

CrazyPavingRules · 01/06/2021 11:06

@mynameisbrian

It very clearly is NOT tax evasion to pay your partner dividends. It is simply good tax planning. Ask any accountant.

In any case, dividends don’t need to be paid only to people who “work”. It is just a way of paying a share of the profits to someone. A salary on the other hand DOES need to be in consideration for work done.

Tax evasion on the other hand is illegal.

Regarding OPs question, definitely talk to a solicitor.

Topseyt · 01/06/2021 11:11

It is a solicitor you need. Urgently. Possibly also a forensic accountant to try and trace any assets he has hidden.

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