Our child is adopted from 1 year and for many years we have raised this child we are mum and dad and integrated fully into family ...prior and post divorce there was some interest in preserving relationship from dad as in not cutting out or making statements about not wanting to cut out at all and to not want child to think dad has just disappeared etc to then a total an utter cut off with him it’s shocking ...literally within days it was like a total different thing my ex was saying it went to that to I can not be involved now as I don’t want a relationship with you and all I did was to encourage the relationship and do nothing in that time but my ex just decided now we are divorcing etc everything he said prior and just alittle (few days) post separation within days it was literally change of heart. My nearly to be ex husband has told family to stop sending any gifts for like birthdays etc he refers to her only as a legal daughter now (which he never did prior) and gives a strong vibes of just not even loving her :( poor child but obviously doesn’t know - but I know. And then when I dare mention his lack of regards for daughter it’s not just the not seeing child but it’s the lack of regard he gets really defensive and says he does care etc but his actions show not even suggesting post divorce just go into social housing etc just no care whatsoever but then he says he does care it’s so confusion :( nothing in actions to suggest he does ... there is just no showing it at all. What would make a parent say all that stuff about being around and almost like pretending to care then literally within days make such a big decision that they now don’t want to be involved as in zero contact .
Anyone else going through this? X