Divorce after many years separation

[Clynn69]

Any help would be greatly appreciated, I got married 31 years ago and quickly became pregnant I only stayed for 2 years due to severe violence and mental abuse , I never wanted to see him and I swore I would never get married again so I never initiated a divorce and I just put it out of my head ( extremely stupid I know ) but the thoughts of seeing him again made me ill , however I have been with my new partner for a few years now and he always assumed I was divorced so I said nothing but now he is talking about marriage and I’m at my wits end how do I tell him and I know my ex would love to drag me through the courts to see if he could get anything out off me although I only have a small pension and some savings I worked and am still working hard for and I don’t see why he should get a penny as he never contributed to our daughter once , don’t know what to do I haven’t seen him for over 20 years but I know where he is because his ex partner got in touch and he made her life a misery too, any advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks

@Clynn69

Didn't want your post to go unanswered. Do you communicate openly and honestly with your current partner? It's really just a case of telling him your not actually divorced yet.

You will easily get a divorce on the grounds of 5 years separation whether he agreees to it or not I would just get the ball rolling to be honest.

Divorce is easy but the clean break order which the OP needs to stop him claiming might be more tricky. Try posting in legal

You never know what he might have that you could claim half of.
You need to speak to a solicitor.
And if you can be intimate with this new man, you should be able to tell him this. As long as you’ve not lied and told him you’re divorced I don’t see the problem.