Good evening all,
I really need some advice please, and even just some listening ears. I’m so sad and stuck.
I will try my best to put it in a nutshell. DH and I have been married for 5 years, together for 10 years and have a 7 year old child. He has a 17 year old son from a previous relationship, who spends 50/50 time between our house and his mum’s. My dh does not work. He treats his son like his best friend, they drink together quite a lot and spend all the time in stepsons little room. Our dc gets no attention at all, ever. She doesn’t like him, none of this is my doing as in I haven’t spoken badly about him to her, she’s a smart kid she sees what goes on. He has a history of heavy drinking, emotional and verbal abuse towards me. I don’t like conflict especially as I don’t want our dc to witness arguments so I just walk away, usually with him still shouting at me. I work part time and do both school runs before & after work. I do the shopping, Christmas and birthday organisation and presents. He sleeps a lot during the day. He occasionally will clean the kitchen but that’s it really and the rest is left to me. I get shouted and moaned at if I leave something :(
I haven’t worn my rings for over a year and have told him a while ago I don’t want to be with him any more. He is making me so sad and also affecting our dc’s happiness. I told him the other day I’m filing for divorce, and he laughed at me. He has treated me so awfully and I feel so sad all the time, yet he expects me to still be loving and caring and gets very angry, does not understand why I’m not. I am walking on eggshells around him all of the time. I am worried to be around him because he is so angry a lot of the time and I’m worried I’ll get shouted at.
I will be filing for divorce soon. He can’t move out due to finances and neither can i. So I do feel like I am stuck with him forever. I need a way out and I can’t see one. How do I get out of this? I can’t take it much longer. I know that me and my dc will be happier and the environment will be a lot calmer, which is all I want. To have a calm and happy life :(
Thank you for reading x