Has anyone managed financial remedy quick in difficulty?

[Hope4newlife]

Hi all,

I am now in the stage that I can apply for Decree Absolute. Child arrangement sorted through the Court. Now, finance needs to be sorted.
However, my ex is not acting yet.

In short, I have assets with no job and my ex has no assets with a good job. He wants half of my assets from 6 years of marriage but is not taking any action yet such as applying to the Court for finance or trying to negotiate. I told him that I am not afraid of going to the Court but he said it's a waste of money but he doesn't want to compromise on what he wants.

We exchanged finance a year ago but nothing happened after but kept wasting money on solicitors fees. My new solicitor requested another finance (Form E) as if new for the last year which is more or less nothing has been changed other than savings since.

Now, I just want to end this long divorce process asap but I am surely not want to give him what he is asking.. Is there anyone who managed to negotiate in finance quick when another person is not acting or trying to negotiate?

What has he got to lose or gain by what you have offered and threatened He compromises and takes less or he goes to court and takes less.
Knowing you want things done quickly gives him leverage over you. What can you use to bring him to the table? What does he want.

Can you help us out a bit here and tell us what the assets are worth.

For example, if they're worth £20k i'd happily give him £10k and consier it money well spent for getting out of the marriage.

In short, it all depends on the value of the assets.

The tricky thing is that the assets I acquired during the marriage was actually the monies that I borrowed from my family when I moved to the UK to do my own business well before the marriage. I did change my business visa application to spouse visa as soon as we got married. I had to spend the money on buying our family home because my ex didn’t have a house for us to live in and had no job, and then I bought another house to generate some income because he didn’t have a job for another two and a half years while I was raising our son.
CMS payment only covers about 15% of child upbringing cost at the moment.

He now has a good job and I am struggling to find a job as a none-English speaker, and the child arrangement order was made for his convenience so basically, I have to do all duties. As a result, it’s even harder to get a job with my circumstances without support from him. I have to pay the loan back too.

At one point, I wanted to end my life. I feel that he is too greedy. Now, I just want to end this marriage ASAP and stand on my own feet so that I can focus on my son and my job. I can’t wait for the second chapter of my life.

I think if there are two houses owned within the marriage then the simplest solution would be to agree to have one each.

Is there a reason you didnt work/run the business you started during the 2.5 years he was at home (and could have done the childcare)?