H's solicitor has sent me a letter setting out his reasons why he wants a divorce based on unreasonable behaviour - I agree that the things he's said happened/didn't happen, but he's ignored that there were very good reasons why (for eg, I didn't support him at business/social functions in the evening because I was ill, and the medication I was taking made me fall asleep by 9pm; he says he was emotionally rejected by me, but that was only after he rejected me - which is a bit he said she said I know).
But me being ill (fibro, and a balance disorder meaning I can't drive any more) was behind a lot of things and situations, and I don't know if it's worth even trying to add explanation? There are a couple of actual errors which I do want corrected though.
I'm not disagreeing with the decision to divorce, but how much will the "she was an unreasonable bitch who was only interested in money" reasons affect any financial settlement? I facilitated his career for 30 years, and would be looking for enough cash to let me buy a smallish house (2 bed, cheap area), but I know he's going to be difficult about that (and will be able to be, in not easy to spot ways).
I'm also wondering why his current rush, I left nearly a year ago, we agreed six weeks ago that it was definitely over, and I'm supposed to respond to the solicitor within 14 days. We don't think there's an actual GF, although he has been potentially lining one up. I had hoped to wait till next year and do a 2 year separation "no blame" divorce, or see if the no fault divorce option does actually happen this year, but seems like he wants it all now.