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Divorce/children

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Marmijuke · 05/05/2021 22:01

Hi, after some advice please. Currently going through a divorce following the discovery of another affair. We moved away from friends/family after a previous affair for a fresh start and have since had children. Discovered husband had another affair when our youngest was just a baby, so marriage is over and I’m devastated husband could do it again with a young family to think of now! 😞 I’ve been stuck in marital home during lockdown away from my family. STBX is insisting I should move out even though I have no family nearby (he does). I work part time around childcare, so cannot afford to rent until divorce is settled which could be months away. My only option is to therefore move back to where we are both from (approx 1 & 1/2 hours away) where I can stay with family until divorce/financial settlement is reached. STBX says I cannot take children, so I’m now trapped here, as will obviously not leave without them! STBX has family and many friends there, so does have option of accommodation there too and I will always ensure Children have regular contact. I appreciate the distance is an issue, but will do anything to aid that issue i.e. travelling and more access in holidays etc, but if I cannot afford to live in current area and have no family to stay with here, what else can I do?! I feel so trapped. Property is much cheaper in our old location, so when settlement is reached it’ll be cheaper to rent/buy there. I do think it’s important for both parents to be involved in children’s upbringing, so I’m having a real battle with this and just wondered what people would do in my shoes/have done in similar situation?

OP posts:
chocolatealldaylong · 05/05/2021 22:05

Don't let him bully you. Do what's right for you. See a solicitor and get the divorce started

millymollymoomoo · 06/05/2021 12:33

You don’t need to move
Stay out
He cannot force you out

Make sure you see a solicitor and get a fair share / settlement

millymollymoomoo · 06/05/2021 12:33

Stay put not stay out !

PicaK · 06/05/2021 12:39

Stay put. Ring divorce solicitor.
Lovely sensible one is Sian Kenkre at www.wilkes.co.uk/people/sian-kenkre/
Put kids first. They need their main carer around.

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