Hi all
I cannot believe what I'm about to write. Some of you might even think that's it's pathetic.
My mother left me when I was 3, met my stepdad and then remarried. I didn't see her for 10 odd years and met her in my mid teens. My early adulthood I spent much time in counselling as why my mum didn't love me/didn't see me. I have a strange relationship with her. In order to have any relationship with her, I've settled to being her friend. For example, she doesn't give me any mother advice and she doesn't expect my call regularly like she would from my half sister. I call her may be once every 4-6 weeks. She lives in a different country as well. So I see her once every 1-2 years.
Anyway, present times, she's telling me that she's leaving my step dad. I feel so sad and anxious but I don't know why. Who is going to look after her? She can't be alone. My poor half sister is going to have to spend so much time with her and probably cannot live her life at the fullest.
In this situation I have so sympathy to my mother. I see that she's made bad decisions in life and then some of them lead to her divorces. This time she kicked her sister in law out of a flat that my step dad has bought for mother and sister. My mother kicked her out after her mother in law passed away. She did this without talking to my step dad first. This caused a lot of problems in my step family. She just didn't communicate this very well.
I know my mum is a lier and she does things when it's best for her but somehow I still feel sad.
I know I have many issues with my mum. Please can I have some advice on how to cope with separation of my mum and step dad (who's been so good to me).