Very new to this very scared and upset

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Just a question really. I earn £19k. H earns circa £50k.

We have a house with around £80k left on the mortgage in his name. We are married.

2 x Kids as of sept will both go to school

He didn’t hit you and you’re safe?

If so then her copies of all relevant paperwork this weekend when he’s not watching rhen speak to a solicitor Tuesday, make the break.

@Bluntness100

Has he hit you before op? Are you safe?

He's never hit me and I feel quite safe thanks @Bluntness100 I'll tell him to fuck off if he so much as opens the door. He wouldn't hurt the kids either so I'm confident in that.

Ok then financially you’re fine to go it alone, you don’t need to stay there and take that shit.

Thank you all you lovely people. I'm feeling braver already and I felt suicidal an hour ago. I'll be getting things in order from first thing tomorrow. It sounds exhausting though.

@Bluntness100 really you don't know what this means to me. I "know" your name from other threads so it's even more reassuring iyswim.

Deep breath........

Please please bear in mind this is a highly risky time for you
It is likely he will try it again
Sorry Just speaking from experience

call the police and report him hitting you, it's assault. He should also not stay at the house tonight with you and the children. You don't need to do anything else tonight other then that.

He hasn't hit me. He's very vaguely threatened it. It's the first time he's done that and I've not seen him since.

Kids are fast asleep and will come running to me at the slightest noise! And I've shut myself in my bedroom. He's been in the spare room since DS2 was born 4 years ago which probably speaks volumes.

He may not have hit you but this is still domestic abuse. Log the threatening behaviour with the police, as well as any previous similar behaviour. This can help with Legal aid application for DA victims. Get a legal aid assessment by calling DV Assist. Get some legal advice ASAP and look at an occupation order. If you aren't able to afford a solicitor try the free helplines Rights of Women and FLOWS.

@Iwouldbecomplex thank you I'd not have known that. I just want to crumple.

OP what is going on? Are you Ok?