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Divorce/separation

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Reasons you separated where there was no abuse or adultery involved?

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Bringyouflowerz · 15/04/2021 23:14

Just wondering why people separate if there are no serious causes?

I recently read a post on MN about the "ick" and I think this is what I have. I recently moved out of the marital home to stay with my parents as I'm just not feeling it. We are sharing the children roughly 50/50 at the moment and I think everyone just assumes I'm going through some sort of phase. I don't think I am though.

DH is a nice man overall, but he is a bit moody, conversations are very factual and tedious, he rarely smiles, he doesn't look after himself well, he often smells sweaty. I don't enjoy sitting next to him on the sofa at all as he's started repeatedly clicking his joints loudly in recent years in the evenings, he snores loudly, eats everything in sight and I recently noticed that he walks funny. He wears the same clothes for days/over a week without washing them, I'm sure he sometimes forgets to brush his teeth. He only classes something as a good idea if one of his friend's have done it first, if not, it's all caution and procrastination.

Aside from all of this he's quite gentle, a nice Dad, but that's about it.

My own parents are stumped by my decision to move out for a while, so heaven knows what they'll all say when I file for divorce. I just quite like the atmosphere when he's not here, I feel less tense, more relaxed and a lot lighter.

Any advice?

OP posts:
CatWillSaveMe · 18/05/2021 23:57

On the paper we divorced because of his reckless financial decisions, him not doing his fair share of housework and lack of intimacy.

In reality, he’s got porn addiction and I’ve been more lonely in my marriage than now, divorced. He’s got a bad temper which started to affect me and make me feel jumpy. Too many arguments and not a good envirenment for kids owerall.

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