Minor detail: rings

[Aprilinspringtimeshower]

Divorcing after a long marriage, sadly and amicably

What do other women do about their engagement and wedding rings? I like what my rings symbolised and the positive memories. They aren’t that valuable as we never had a lot of money ( e.g. couple of hundred pounds)
I don’t regret my marriage. I married the “right” man but it’s just life’s circumstances that mean we no longer should stay together. Neither of us have anyone else on scene...I certainly at my age have no intentions of getting involved with another man.

The rings have left grooves on my ring finger after 30 years so even with them off I still have skin imprints “rings” that I think will take years to fade. Without them on, every time I look at my hand it seems like I am trying to obliterate the past, and I don’t want to do that

I am torn in feeling I “should” stop wearing them as I will be divorced and I have no rights to continue to wear

I know it’s a Silly detail in the scale of a big divorce, and not a problem compared with some of the heart ache on this board, it’s more a curiously of what other women do

I think many people see the rings as reminders of something they don’t want to be reminded of.
However - i think it’s all up to you. Who cares what other people think or do.
Wear them if you want and they mean something to you.
As time passes you may change your mind or not.
Life is too short to love it by what other people may say.

There are companies where if you send your rings in they will do a ring design based on your instructions and produce a new ring. You can then have a fresh start while not losing a piece of your history. Also it will hopefully be exciting to have a redesigned piece of jewellery so you can enjoy your rings again without feeling too much sadness. That might be an option.

I'm wearing one on the other hand. Luckily it fitted. It cost a lot more than I could sell it for and I quite like it as a piece of jewellery!