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Paris100 · 09/04/2021 14:50

My children stay with their dad, my XH, every 2nd weekend, Fri night to Sun evening. I organise everything by packing a bag for the children’s stay.
My query is...should he be responsible for them from straight after school on the relevant Friday if that is his night? I have to rush home straight from work to get them after school, organise them then hand them over to their dad who has the convenience of finishing work at a time to suit him.

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toobusytothink · 09/04/2021 14:56

Depends on what has been agreed. In general
Though I reckon “his” responsibility should start when school finishes though so if childcare is needed that should be his payment. But if it’s easy for you to collect and have kids then there’s nothing wrong with that either. Pretty sure there’s no assumption here though

toobusytothink · 09/04/2021 14:58

What would the kids do if you couldn’t get home? How old are kids? Surely he can finish early once a fortnight ...

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Paris100 · 09/04/2021 15:11

Kids are 10, 11 and 14. My childcare for the younger two no longer exists due to Covid so I have to rush home from work for them.

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Paris100 · 09/04/2021 15:17

We never agreed anything as such but that was before the childcare fell through. I just assumed the role of collecting them but it causes issues for me having to leave work so promptly.

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HosannainExcelSheets · 10/04/2021 11:42

I personally think that his responsibility should start when you drop them off at school on Friday morning. It's his weekend, and he's a parent with all the responsibility as well as all the fun.

Try discussing it with him. He may not realise that he's actually responsible for them all day if Friday is his day.

PatriciaHolm · 10/04/2021 23:14

At those ages, can they not get themselves home?

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Paris100 · 13/04/2021 15:16

@PatriciaHolm

At those ages, can they not get themselves home?
The two younger ones are due home before the oldest gets home from school, so unfortunately, no.
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monkehsee · 13/04/2021 15:19

I would think if you are each responsible for them biweekly on a Friday then his Friday would be his responsibility for school pick up and on your Friday it will be yours. Then you are both taking responsibility for having to leave early that day.
That's my opinion though and other people may see differently.

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