Mediation to sort out financial and kids ADVICE please very lost

[mvilma6]

Hi,

im divorce already but now we have decided to go for mediation to sort out financials and the baby we have.

any one with past experiences or advice? i dont know what to say, how to ask for things......anything

thnaks

Hi, try not to worry too much. I'm going through mediation and the mediator is skilled in facilitating these conversations. There is a process they go through which then leads to the conversations you need to have. You don't have to come up with any questions yourself. I would recommend being prepared with what you want and what your bottom line is. Good luck x

I'd suggest a two pronged approach.

My ex and I have found its been really useful to go to a counsellor to work out our new role as co-parents.
Not saying we haven't hit rough spots but sorting out the tricky bits with someone neutral as they've come up has been a huge help. Certainly in terms of communication, listening to each other, recognising when what we think is making us mad with the other isn't the actual thing. She's both really bashed our heads together and supported us both.
Counsellor £65 an hour, Mediator £360 an hour.
Our Mediator was also fabulous - Maria Ramon at Anthony Collins. Friendly, down to earth, practical and focused on the kids. We liked her a lot. Another one equally tough on us both and equally supportive. But she's not there to sort out the emotions and it's easy for emotions to cloud and fog up practicalities.
Good luck with it all.