This is so much harder than I expected

[LoveIsAllThereIs]

Separating, two DCs, all the emotional, logistical and financial implications. I can't remember feeling normal. I had no idea whatsoever it would feel this hard. I can lose hours to crying or doing nothing. The worry about the future is overwhelming. It was my decision too. When does it feel better?

When you look back and realise your life is so much better. Two years ago I was struggling to sleep etc. Now I'm lying alongside an amazing man who I just wish I met 15 years ago rather than staying with exh for so long

it's an emotional roller-coaster but two years on the good days generally outnumber the bad. I ended the marriage but it was dead already and has been an amicable split. Gather your support network, even if only virtual for now, nurture yourself and allow whatever you are feeling. It will pass (and come back, and pass, and come back...)

Same OP. It's horrible having to go through all the formalities and logistics and making practical conditions when you are heart broken.

Just one day at a time we will get there

Thank you. Sorry you are going through this too @luckyreds. I try to think a day at a time but by 5pm I'm usually 2 years ahead and feel like I'm drowning in the to do list

@LoveIsAllThereIs I know what you mean. I have found the divorce page on Reddit really helpful as well. A lot of people on there who have come through the other side.

It's so daunting "starting again"

Me too. I'm finding this life so lonely at times. I'm about 16 months on. It's overwhelming and exacerbated by this covid lifestyle. This is my 'free' weekend with no childcare responsibilities. I can't wait till Monday! Never thought this was how life would turn out.

Going through the same OP. It's so difficult