At what point do I tell people?

[Shatteredo]

DH moved out 1 month ago.
I'm shattered that he is happy living back with his parents and having to spend time away from my kids when he has them.
Thing is, he has lots of family and friends around as we live in the town he grew up in. I have a few friends who I see now and then and no family at all. We bumped into some old friends yesterday at the park when out with DCs together (we are trying to have a bit of normality for DCs sakes) and they were asking if we would consider more kids, how thing were etc. And DH just put on this big charade as if we're a happy family. It was heart wrenching. DCs think DH is staying at their grandparents because of covid (I had a shielding letter) but this is no longer true.
I'm desperate to reach out and get some support, but I'm silenced by the fact that "we may work through this" and that DH may come home at some point. But DHs life seems quite good- he has a good relationship with his parents, they enjoy take aways at the weekends together, card games, movies and I'm sat here alone in a big house or alone with my DCs.
I feel hopeless and depressed today as the sun shines and I can hear families around me in the gardens whilst I'm sat here on my own with my thoughts.
Nobody knows what's going on for me.

Is it time to tell other people and get some support or wait a bit longer? I've told a couple of close friends, due to the hope of reconciliation, but I'm very much on my own.
Help?

I have been in your position.

I promise you it does get easier with time. My dc are with their dad for 7 nights and it's the longest I have not seen them but I'm enjoying doing my own thing more and more (despite not being able to actually do anything because of lockdown) I'm getting the garden pretty ready to start socialising again. The early days were awful for me tho. All you can really do is keep busy.
I still see "happy families" out shopping or going on their walks and it used to make me so sad but it's getting easier.

We did the whole "we may reconcile" thing and it went on for almost a year and we only told close friends. We even went on a family holiday and he would stay at mine once a week.
Then one day he decided that things would never change and he met someone within weeks of "ending" it officially. He very proudly let everyone know by uploading a pic with a #newbeginings tagged with a picture of them cuddled up. My heart broke.

Several months later and whilst I still have moments of sadness, I'm coming to terms with it. I'm not longer hiding what happened and i have even rejoined social media.

You don't have to announce it as it's still so soon and probably quite raw but I would definitely reach out to some trusting friends, whether you reconcile or not you will need some support.

Thanks @upupandawaytoday for sharing your story. 7 days seems very long, but also nice to be able to get things done.

It sounds devastating that your DH kept you hanging for so long. There's probably a lesson in that for me.

I've decided to reach out a little more today and my friend called me straight away for a 1 hour phone call. It was just what I've needed. I've told a couple of "safe" friends up until this point but they aren't the most reliable either. There are others that know who I could lean on a little more.

In truth, it wasn't just him keeping me hanging on. I think neither of us knew how to let go when we really should have.

It's probably the most scary and unusual time fo have to go through divorce/separation with everything going on in the world. So just take it one day at a time x