Short marriage advice

[Lostmyway86]

DH and I have only been married 1.5 years. We have 2 DC, 5 months and 21 months. The relationship has broken down and I wish to seek a divorce. Has anyone divorced after only being married a short amount of time? Can things be done quicker? I don't know where to start....

Have you tried counselling or thought of mediation?

@KirstenBlest

Have you tried counselling or thought of mediation?

It's beyond that I'm afraid. We've been together 5 years and he has 2 DC from a previous relationship. Everything he's put me through and how things have played out are too much to try and repair. I now need to prioritise myself and my children. I was silly to marry into it but I was busy having babies and not thinking straight. I'm sure I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship which is why he split with his eldest children's mother. I just need to leave.

Hi, I posted just to bump it really. Have you spoken to Women's Aid, Refuge or a similar organisation?

I can believe that if he was emotionally abusive he will have been EA in the past.

Hugs.

Get legal advice etc

Thank you. I don't really want it to get messy like him and his ex's split did. I would like it amicable and quick if possible. Just wondered if it was possible to be quick as such a short marriage. Will get legal advice asap thank you.

Good luck, @Lostmyway86.
You are being strong.

You can file on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour, that’s what I did. Do you have finances to divide up, a house?

Your divorce will take the same amount of time as a long marriage divorce would take. There isn't a separate process for short marriages.

It can however be hastened by yourself and your dh deciding mutually between you how to divide the assets and what to do about the dc. Do you think you'll be able to agree on these points?

Yes we have a house, joint mortgage. I'd be happy to go as I think he'd want to stay as it's home for his 4 children. So I guess buying me out is an option if he'd be willing. Ar that's a shame thought there might be some quick way out! Thanks all

You also don’t have a short marriage by law as co-habiting time counts once you marry.

Ring around some family solicitors. Most offer a half hour consultation free of charge. In my experience, it’s often towards the end of the working day.

Knowledge is power so it will be the first step towards finding out what’s possible so you can get the ball rolling.

Once you get on with things you will feel sooo much better.

Big hug. You can do this.

Thanks all. This thread was actually from 2 years ago. Think it was resurrected as @kmpploit said something, I'm guessing not very nice as mumsnet removed it before I saw!

Sadly, I'm still in the same situation. Things got better for a bit, but are crap again now. I'm back at work full time and with a 2 and 3 year old I just have no time for anything. I know I need to start thinking of ways out as I'm utterly miserable.