After a 6 week trial separation, we are sitting down to discuss what the future looks like.
DH takes offence extremely easily, so I want to choose my words carefully in order to avoid "well you did this, you said that."
At the same time, I want to be honest. I've fumbled around for the correct word to describe how I am finding the persistent "trying" to be in a relationship together and I've fallen upon "traumatic."
That is how I can describe how I feel when my needs are persistently unmet, I'm unheard, or he's irritating me.
I've decided that there is no future for us unless there are huge huge changes which I would need to see prior to trying again. But I really don't want to fall out with him, there is just no point, we would merely be demonstrating why we need to separate in the first place.
How do I phrase it?
I want to use the word "traumatic" somewhere, but how? It's not the relationship I find traumatic, but the never ending disappointment of it I think.