Section 7 cafcass Report - lying ex

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A cafcass report for child arrangements is being done for a few issues we don't agree on. We had a joint meeting and my exh told cafcass a lot of lies about me, in front of me.

I calmly said I don't agree with what he is saying but didn't go into detail.

Do cafcass actually believe everything or should I take proof of his lies to the next meeting? Would it be better just to be brief without making it a he said, she said thing?

I expected him to lie as he's done it before with the Police and in court. Should I mention that? Some of it is documented.

If you have the evidence show them.
They're not stupid but if it's not relevant to the children and their care they won't take any notice to it.

What sort of things is he lying about, and what sort of proof do you have?

He said I didn't ask him about the school place for our lo. I have two polite emails asking him about his views (he was abroad at the time), no response. Also another email forwarding details, he claims I never informed him.

That I imposed the days he sees the children but he asked for those days in mediation. I asked the mediator and they confirmed.

Other lies like when he went abroad for 5 months and I didn't let the children talk to him, that I stole from him etc.

The lie to the police was that I scratched him but the person who did it was interviewed and admitted it. I saw it happen. Exh then retracted the allegation and it's documented.

In the cafcass meeting he talked about how the situation is affecting his work and reputation and somehow it's my fault.

Yes anything you can evidence as a lie you should show them

Print everything off. Write a timeline and keep it all in a file. Take it with you to solicitor and court... When your report comes back highlight all the lies and go through it with your solicitor..

Absolutely, if you prove his lies, show them the proof.

You carrying the file around will put the heebies up your ex also.
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Thank you. Thinking about it, I should be grateful he lied in the joint meeting, I have enough evidence and will print the emails and letters. I can't imagine what he'll come out with at his individual meeting but hopefully cafcass will see he is very dishonest.

OK, so what happened in mediation is privileged so shouldn't be shared by either of you, unless it's an agreed outcome.

The lies about school choice you can show to CAFCASS but ultimately the Court is the arbiter of facts, CAFCASS are not. So CAFCASS may not wish to express a view that he is lying.

The lie to the police would need police disclosure to prove so tell them, but that is one for the Court to hear.

It sounds to me as if he is taking plenty of rope for himself, so stay calm.

Can anybody help ive taken my ex to court for a child arrangement order , the children live with me an I did stop him from seeing the younger ones the older ones are pretty much adults an don’t want to see him , I had a no-mol taken out on him because of domestic violence he takes drugs an had supplied 2 of them with drugs the youngest 1 was found with a bag of white powder on a video which which he’s saying it was in my care ( he had control over her phone an found the video ) I have messages to prove she was with him when she the video was made an it was at his place of work , i pushed for social to get to the bottom of it but nothing got done I reported him to the police who just said they would use it as intelligence he’s got passed history or using an selling drugs an also went to prison , yet he’s a very good an clever liar an can turn the charm on will courts see through his lies as some of it I can back what I say up as truth but I can’t prove what he’s saying about me is not truth because there lies , has anybody else had any dealing with the same thing ?

I would collate all the evidence that you can to prove his lies so far. He will have a really shitty reputation and hopefully get thrown on his arse and have his (and your) fees all charged to him.