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Divorce/separation

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Dealing with a snake advice needed

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Momma2021 · 25/03/2021 21:23

Hi all hope someone can help

My ex is pushing for divorce and asking for money towards, just wondered if there would be anything other than money that he would want to rush this.
I left as he was emotional abusive he is nt taken responsibility and so we have waiting almost 2 years which I was under the impression we would just go for seperstion as the reason for the divorce.
He is now asking for money and saying that if I don't agree he will do it his way? Whatever that means, I don't have any interest what's so ever in his money, I just want rid but we have a child together and I don't know what I need to add with regards as I don't want to come away not knowing I should have done something and the fact he's asking me for half is this right? Or is he trapping me, I don't know what he's upto like I say he's probably thinking I'm after his money but would there be anything else? All I'm bothered about is our child as my only concern. At the moment we have no legal child arrangements is this the time to make these arrangements in stone and what else do I need to know.
Please advice as I'm dealing with a snake I am happy to pay half just to get rid but then don't want to fall into a trap as you always have to think one step ahead of him.
Thanks for any help x

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ComtesseDeSpair · 26/03/2021 09:37

If you owned a home during your marriage, had any savings, or built up any pensions through work, these all need to considered and split between the two of you. What is he actually wanting half of? Have you spoken with a solicitor?

StephenBelafonte · 26/03/2021 14:19

Yes, what assets do you have?

Momma2021 · 28/03/2021 12:46

Hi thanks both for your response, we don't own a home, I think he's just concerned I'm going to go for his money pension savings etc.. I have no interest as dont want anything from the man, I just do know what else he can go for with regards to child arrangements etc, maintance at the moment he dictates when he sees him and he is now paying every week but do I try and get this confirmed in the divorce and anything else regarding our child as my child is my only concern in this and don't want to come away not knowing, something virtual. Mediation has nt worked. Just want to know what I should be initiating with my solicitor before he files for it as I'm not intirerally sure he knows what he's doing when he applies for it.
Thanks for any help

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Momma2021 · 28/03/2021 12:48

Oh and sorry I mean half towards paying to file for it.

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Singlenotsingle · 28/03/2021 12:52

It's not hugely expensive to file for divorce, especially if you're going on a 2 year separation with no assets to argue about. It's when solicitors get involved that the costs rack up. Talk to him and find out exactly what he's intending to do. If it's straightforward you might not need solicitors at all.

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