Advice on divorce. Husband disappeared from our life

[mvilma6]

Hi,

5 years 5 months married with a 11 months baby.

We got divorce signed and done
baby lives with me and dad has not seen/ ask about him for more than 2 months.

We have social services situation due an "unexplained mark" on babies face while baby was with his dad for 3 minutes (i was upstairs brushing my teeth), as a consequence i have 24h supervision at home with my parents (HORRIBLE SITUATION)

He is ignoring any social service meeting, cutting calls from social service woman, not asking about baby, not visiting him, never visited nursery, haven't been to doctors with baby for more than 6 months....

my idea is move back to my country in the future with my baby. do you think all this stupid behaviour from him will support a court claim to let me move back?

Also, baby's nursery on its own is £1300 a month, but he has decided that paying me £300 towards child maintenance is perfect and enough. is that right? he earns around £30000 a year. my solicitor has told me UK law is very unfair in that sense but sounds normal to her.

What if i loose my job? i thought despite divorce we should try to keep baby with the same standards of living as before. ]

thanks ladies

Hi contact the CMS re child maintenance I believe he should pay 19% of his salary?

£300 a month sounds about right based on a salary of £30,000. He’s not obliged to ensure that you have the same standard of living as you would have had if you’d stayed together. If your earnings are low, as the resident parent you can claim benefits to support your income, including an element to help towards childcare. Yes, he could prevent you from leaving the country with your child in the future. You would need legal advice.

£300 a month is pretty normal in the uk. It's a percentage of his salary.

Legally that's all he's obligated to pay.

I always think it's very unfair that it's the resident parent who has to pay for childcare.

Thanks ladies. So me having to pay full time childcare on my own is what law says in the uk?

To make it clear I dont want/ need any money for myself I have a decent paid job.

Yes unfortunately because you are choosing to work - I get it, you have to work to provide money to support yourself and your child! But yes, unfortunately the resident parent, or whomever the child is officially with when they need the childcare has to stump up the cost.
Can’t you just get a flight to your home country and go?
By the sounds of it, he wouldn’t bother with a court case if he can’t be assed to see his own child when they’re in the same country as him.

Hi GoddessKali, I wish I could jump on that plane and leave but it will be child abduction so I need to do it trough court and I'm sure he will try to come as a heartbroken dad that doesn't want to be separated from his baby :(

so so unfair, as you said, i have to pay that huge nursery bill which leaves me with just enough money to live but he pays £300 and the rest for him to enjoy (he lives with his mum, so rent free)

You might be entitled to the childcare aspect of universal credit depends on how much you earn you need to look into OP. Go on entitled to and see