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STBXH moving back in

9 replies

Timetostartafresh · 17/03/2021 14:00

Hi,

I have posted a couple of times about the financial settlement proposals that stbxh has made and not wanting pensions or other property included.

My solicitor spoke to his and told her that we want an pensions actuary involved as there are 2 db schemes and due to the value.

As a result ex has now refused to continue with mediation and has informed me that he is taking me to court and that he is moving back into the family home that I am currently sharing with our child who is 8 as he can’t afford to continue to rent due to solicitors, actuary & court costs and this is the only way he can finance it.

Does anyone have any thoughts what I can do to make this work. I am massively concerned how this is going to effect our child’s mental health or any ideas if I can stop this happening.

Also does anyone know what happens with child maintenance once we are sharing a house again (we have agreed that I would have our child 5 nights and ex would have 2 nights per week)

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mamas12 · 17/03/2021 14:04

How long has he been out of the house?
Because I think you should let you solicitor let him know that the house is no longer his habitual residence and try and block him

Timetostartafresh · 17/03/2021 14:22

He’s been out of the house since September last year

OP posts:
Timetostartafresh · 17/03/2021 14:22

Yes I’ve told my solicitor

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WellIWasInTheNeighbourhoo · 17/03/2021 14:57

Apply for an occupation order on the grounds that the relationship has broken down to such an extent that it would be damaging for your child if he were to live in the house again.

FelicityPike · 17/03/2021 14:58

@WellIWasInTheNeighbourhoo

Apply for an occupation order on the grounds that the relationship has broken down to such an extent that it would be damaging for your child if he were to live in the house again.
This!!
LemonTT · 17/03/2021 16:02

He is being reactive and angry. And he wants you to be reactive, angry and scared. Don’t rise to it.

Just acknowledge his intentions and reply that you don’t think his proposal is tenable. Explain that it would cause instability for your child and on that basis you will be seeking an occupation order.

Tankflybosswalkjam · 17/03/2021 16:03

Wow! Occupation order now!

blackcurrantjam · 17/03/2021 21:18

Log it with local police as a coercive threat
Call them if he turns up

Loveacoseynightin · 19/03/2021 15:24

Surely if his name is on the deeds he is entitled to enter his property?

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