Making a financial agreement ourselves –what should I ask for based on this?

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I am doing this myself without any support and would really appreciate some advice.

I've had a consultation with a solicitor and will be instructing her to draw up a consent order. To save money we want to agree on terms ourselves and then get it documented in a legally binding way. STBXH says he'll agree to anything reasonable. I've never lived alone and this is all completely new and extremely scary to me. Can you tell me a reasonable amount to ask for? Two children, both teenagers.

Married twenty years. I haven't worked throughout it (not my choice but very against my wishes – abuse/control) except starting from two years ago and now in low paying job. These are the details

His annual income - 132,000
His pensions - 94,000
My annual income - 18,000
My pensions - 0
Equity in house (his name) - 270,000
Savings - 0

We have separate accounts. He gives me 800+ per month for food, children's activities and going out etc and takes care of everything else like bills and mortgage etc.

Please give me an idea of what might be a suitable settlement. My lawyer said that she cannot advise me with this kind of basic detail and needs full information through form E (but that process costs a lot more). When I ask him he won't say anything, just says it's up to me to tell him numbers and he'll agree if it sounds OK (Divorce initiated by me) and I have NO IDEA

It doesn’t matter if one spouse earned a million a year for 20 years and the other spouse earned nothing for 20 years. In the law they made an equal contribution to the family.

Absolutely get solicitor, form E, see how you go from there. Honestly if he starts dicking about get onto a court schedule asap. You'll have to see a mediator first but do that too with a solicitor in the background helping you. It's a long road and I know you just want out but as others have said, this is rest of your life. Best of luck .