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Numbness subsiding and overwhelming feelings

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Brokenawoken · 05/03/2021 09:18

I've felt numb for a little over 2 years. I've had to train myself to grey rock at times, keep my emotions in check. There has been no intimacy, no sex, no love, no joy, no happy. No sadness either. Even my sense of smell and taste felt numb I realise now.

I'm a very emotional, sensitive person usually and I've had to numb myself to survive. In recent weeks, we have been living separately under the same roof and I've seen much less of him. I'm consciously losing weight, eating healthily, jogging, reading again, writing daily, I've met up with old friends for walks, woken up early to watch the sun rise over the hills above my village. And now we have decided to put the house on the market and go our seperate ways.

I feel suddenly very "awake". My taste buds are very strong, so are smells. A man's aftershave across the street made my stomach go over last week. I feel overwhelmed by excitement, fear, joy. But also, very anxious and a bit jumpy.

I feel different.

How do I keep myself in check as these feelings start to take over? I'm finding it quite overwhelming.

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Loracina · 05/03/2021 21:24

I can relate to some of it, also felt numb for many years! I'm slowly trying to do what you are doing - things that I enjoy, trying to look after myself more, but I have a high-pressured job and that takes a lot of my time.

Waiting for divorce to be final, hopefully soon, and also feeling excited, petrified, overwhelmed. Attending counselling which is helping to talk things through.

I don't really have much advice and not sure what the answer is but what I'm trying to do is take one day at the time and accept there will be highs and lows x

NotAgainNoMore · 05/03/2021 23:33

All your senses are being awakened now the pressure is off - it is going to feel intense and maybe scary. Embrace it, let your feelings flow. It's a phase and it will gradually fell less overwhelming.

NotAgainNoMore · 05/03/2021 23:34

*feel

Brokenawoken · 06/03/2021 07:17

Sorry you're going through this too @Loracina. Counselling really helps doesn't it.

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