What do you do when you've just had enough of eachother?

[GreenGarden22]

No cheating, no lies, no secret phones, mistresses/misters (?!), no gambling, no debts (except mortgage). 50:50 parenting (almost, I mean I still have that immense mental mother load that he seems oblivious too).

I've just had enough of him. Been together 12 years, 2 kids (4&5), married, own home. I earn more than him and no money worries.

Both been wfh for a year and my god we've literally run out of things to say to each other. I fantasise about him leaving, I'd be happy with the house and the kids. I can afford to buy him out of the house and still be ok.

I'm pretty sure he feels the same way.

Is it enough to separate just because we don't want to be together anymore? Is that what they mean by growing apart? I'm not even sad about it.... I just envisage an enormous sense of relief about the thought of being alone.

Wait and see if it improves after lockdown? It’s put so much pressure on relationships, it’s not healthy to be together 24/7.

Am in the same position and are dragging this out till after lockdown,
we’ve had a conversation last about what we both want when lock down ends, his wants are dinner drinks holidays etc with me mine we’re friends new hobbies travelling etc none of my wants included him,
so is just waiting to see what life after lockdown brings just prolonging the inevitable?

In your case, I'd strongly suggest waiting until lockdown is over. However, you can separate for whatever reason. He doesn't need to be an abusive shit. Maybe lockdown has highlighted all that's wrong or lacking and has speeded up the process. Have you even talked to him about how you feel?