My STBX squirrelled money away for years whilst being incredibly mean and controlling about money in our marriage.
We separated October 2019 but I'm still having nightmares about the discovery of the hoarding (which he 'disappeared' in the early divorce) and the horrible realisation that he hadn't loved me for a really long time, oh and the fact that chose 24 years to come out as gay, whilst rarely if ever complementing me on my appearance or making me feel loved.
How do you move on? How do you stop the washing machine of your mind going back over and over and over?