Very long story short, I left a controlling ex-husband in 2014. Within hours he had changed the locks to the family home in anger. Our children were just 3 and 6 at the time and I was the primary carer, working just one day a week. Ex-husband was working ft and then some setting up his own business.
He took me to court and, despite my submitting of a lengthy document detailing the reams of abuse I had suffered, the courts awarded 50/50 shared care (week on, week off).
Seven years on my ex has taken me to court time and time again because he wants more custody. It is a punishment. So far he has been unsuccessful but the boys are now 10 and 13 and his animosity towards me is being displayed through the kids sadly. We are facing court yet again soon which of course is very frightening.
What is making me really upset is that the boys have been assessed and found to have an insecure attachment style.
I feel like saying "Well, no shit, Sherlock, look what you did to us!"
Am I right to feel like this?