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Can husband stay in hotel?!

9 replies

YesAnastasia · 18/02/2021 09:08

My husband needs to leave. The situation has become unsafe. He left last night but then came back. I asked him (on text) to get a bag and actually go so he did.
He then text back saying the hotel wouldn't let him stay unless he had a letter from a letting agent, the police or work! He said he'd stay 'on the street' (?????) until morning when he would come back for charging his devices.

I let him back to sleep on the couch and it is now 9.04 and we need to go down for breakfast. He has work. I don't want to argue (or even have them see he slept downstairs) in front of the kids.

The kids are autistic children and this is a volatile household at the best of times. It is imperative that he leaves the house. I'm going to have to talk to him aren't I?! 🥺

What do we do about the hotel?

Can anyone help??!!

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BopToTheTop · 18/02/2021 09:18

Could either of you rent another property?

It may be cheaper than a hotel for the duration

superstar84 · 18/02/2021 09:27

The premier inn are letting out rooms, ring up and explain the situation

My mum stays in one once a fortnight as she goes to my grans to clean, shop and personal care

She booked online then the hotel rang to check her reason for stay

YesAnastasia · 18/02/2021 09:31

I looked online and saw that you could book. It's on £35 a night.
When he went to a hotel last night, they told him he couldn't stay and he said he wasn't going to 'argue' with the man there.

That probably means explain the situation which he won't do.

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YesAnastasia · 18/02/2021 22:11

Turns out you can if it is for looking after a disabled child OR repute from looking after a disabled child.

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FusionChefGeoff · 18/02/2021 22:33

A) bullshit - he just wanted to come home and wasn't happy
B) relationshio breakdown is a reason for travel / hotel stays / bursting bubbles etc and is allowed
C) ask police to come and remove him

SmellsLikeAHamsterCage · 18/02/2021 23:20

My husband stayed at a holiday inn last week. It was for work, but he wasn't asked any questions, other than having to give his booking reference number that he'd made a couple of hours beforehand on the website.

Sounds like your husband was just looking for an excuse to stay home? If they really wanted proof from an employer he could just say he was self employed, surely? It is not illegal to travel for work.

Otter71 · 26/02/2021 06:34

You say kids are autistic so usually that means at least one parent is too.

Is he typically inflexible of thought / unable to lie / anxious or struggling with communication? Or does he even have a diagnosis too? Very common ATM for parents to be diagnosed as a result of their child's diagnosis. May just need someone to ring up as his PA to explain the situation? May be that he is having a major panic about change and can't cope with that bit? Good luck.

Divorcethediv · 26/02/2021 18:54

Premier inn are taking guests. Domestic situations/safety are included

wizzywig · 26/02/2021 18:59

Sorry to butt in, where is this guidance re staying for respite when you have a child/ children with disabilities?

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