Quickest option

[havecourage8bekind]

Any advice on the quickest, easiest, pain free way to divorce? I was emotionally abused and it was an awful marriage, split not amicable...however, he knows this is it and I think the divorce itself will be fairly amicable. We have nothing to split, no assets or money...I'm entitled to his pension but I don't want a penny of it. I just want to not be married anymore, as quickly and cheaply as possible. Advice?

Is he the sort of person to drag it out at any cost if you put any blame on him? Or would he also be happy to have it finished ASAP now? That could change the approach here.

He doesn't want to divorce yet, and actually wants to go down legal separation route (he's looking into a mortgage and doesn't want me to be entitled to half if we are legally married). My point is - why pay a solicitor to have a legal separation if we could just divorce and have it done with? I think if I presented him with a low cost option, he'd just go with it.

My situation is complicated but currently reasonably amicable and we are going through a mediation service (which I just googled and found a couple in my area) the one we are going to, have advised that 'normally' couples need 3-4 sessions (about an hour long) will be £150 a session, which I've applied for legal aid for... my husband is the main bread winner, and my jobs been buggered by COVID so I have no funds. The main point is though that if you can't agree you will have to go to a solicitor anyway, but sounds like your happy to agree and get it done... Best of luck

I think if I presented him with a low cost option, he'd just go with it.

Sounds like it's worth a punt.
The lowest cost option is you both list the assets you each have, you negotiate line by line how to split or deal with them. Then you file your decisions with the courts (DIY divorce)

It tends not to succeed because people don't know how to resolve their disagreements; takes a lot of good will, low greed, low bitterness to succeed. If succeeds, then pretty much you only have the court fees to pay for divorce.

Do you have kids? Don't want a settlement that means he pays too little for his kids.