Divorce help please

[Kinglou123]

Hello I have never posted before but I need some advice from impartial people.
I have been married 2 years and with my OH for 3.5 years.
I moved in to his old house with my 2 children he lives there with his 2 children as their mother died.
2 years ago we bought a bigger house however I was not on the mortgage due to having some adverse credit.
Our home is worth £400k mortgage £100k
He also has two rental properties he has owned before meeting me the equity in both combined is about £60k if sold, they have a rental income of £20k a year.
I gave up my job to look after all 4 children and have endured 3 years of hell from his mother and ex’s families all of whom have never accepted he is a step dad to my children and think I am a gold digger.
I have been verbally abused assaulted and the police never helped they just said the family were grieving.
So I now am in the position where I can’t cope anymore, I have been diagnosed with fibromyalgia the doctor says due to extreme stress.

I need to put my mental health first and need to leave but am I entitled to anything?
My OH works full time I pay £1200 into the joint account monthly and do the full children care.

I’m just needing some advice, I have registered with a council but as I am classed as owning a house I’m not entitled to help although the house is not in my name.

Then you need to

Get enough for a deposit for a private rental
Then apply for tax credits

Where do you get £1200 a month from if you don’t work?

I care for my son who’s autistic i also receive help as I have a health condition

Oh sorry and I also get maintenance for my sons

Regardless of whether you on the mortgage you have a right to a share in it. Did you do a prenup protecting your DH ?

Why if you're not working do you put £1200 onto the pot each month ? Surely you talked about finances before you gave up your career ?

I think you won’t get much

It’s a short marriage and you haven’t really contributed other than basic costs.

I think you need to leave and find a rental

What would happen if you times the first payment and diverted the £1200 as a deposit?

Some housing schemes help with a deposit

No prenup.
Honestly I just kind of fell into the childcare role my kids were at child minders his were looked after but however he dumped them with them I moved in and people stopped helping him with them so 4 kids in child care didn’t work financially so I just started taking less shifts then I’ve ended up not working.

@BluebellsGreenbells

I think you won’t get much

It’s a short marriage and you haven’t really contributed other than basic costs.

I think you need to leave and find a rental

What would happen if you times the first payment and diverted the £1200 as a deposit?

Some housing schemes help with a deposit

I agree with regards to his two rentals But our house he would not have afforded if I didn’t do up his old house to sell and I have paid for things in this house and helped increase value. The rental income is not in our joint account I see no money from that I only have a joint account for this current house

Why do you need to leave, don't you love your husband?

Does he say anything to his family about how they treat you?

You may have spent money on his house but you aren’t in the deeds

You may as well have paid fo my new kitchen

@BluebellsGreenbells

You may have spent money on his house but you aren’t in the deeds

You may as well have paid fo my new kitchen

Big life lesson learnt here.

@Outbutnotoutout

Why do you need to leave, don't you love your husband?

Does he say anything to his family about how they treat you?

This!

I just can’t cope anymore and he doesn’t talk to his kids it’s causing such a big issue with my kids I feel like a single parent to 4 kids.
No he says nothing

I strongly suggest mediation, or just talking. He might be more amenable than you think. Far better than simply moving out

@mootymoo

I strongly suggest mediation, or just talking. He might be more amenable than you think. Far better than simply moving out

I have tried all the time he says he will try but nothing changes, he says he doesn’t know why he can’t talk to his kids but he has no problems with mine. I suggested he go to counselling with his kids but no not interested

How old are they all?

His two are
12/9
My two
14/9

If you gave up work to look after all 4 children I am certain you will be entitled to something, it will take time to be able to work again etc and you need to be able to live in the custom you are now during that period.

Not much to go on, but it seems he just wanted an unpaid nanny and housekeeper, with sex on tap.

He hasn't shared all his life with you (rental doesn't go in one pot for all)

He doesn't stand up for you against his parents.

See a solicitor

@Outbutnotoutout

Not much to go on, but it seems he just wanted an unpaid nanny and housekeeper, with sex on tap.

He hasn't shared all his life with you (rental doesn't go in one pot for all)

He doesn't stand up for you against his parents.

See a solicitor

That’s how I am feeling exactly.

If you have a genuine case to put and you were actually married then there’s always a chance. Will you get a lot? Not likely but I think you could get something.

Honestly I think you need to see a solicitor. You can usually get some initial advice free.

It's a short marriage and even short relationship.

You have no children together. He came with all the assets.

It's not looking good at all and likely he could fight his case in the above basis.

On the other hand you’d be a lot happier not being a stay at home parent

You’d be free to do what you want to do