Divorce and looking for sole custody

[mvilma6]

Hi mums,

i was wondering if anyone has been on similar situation.

after 5 years marriage I'm ready for divorce, he is useless as father and husband. I have to maintain him economically in so many occasions cos he keeps loosing his jobs, again 2 days ago, he lasted 7 days in this last one.

we have a 9 months old baby and he has been ignoring him (and me for the last 5 months) he doesn't know anything about babies routine, likes, plays, nursery, doctors..... nothing DONT ASK why still with him

I want full custody of baby but i have the feeling his only interest is making things difficult to me and will apply for share one.

is there any possibilities of me getting the full one?

he doesn't love the baby, just money. im willing to give him all the money from selling the house, i just want my baby and a life away from him

You really need to see a solicitor.

You and your H share Parental Responsibility, and that isn't something that can change. Custody is no longer a concept in English law.

He'd only get no access if he was proven to be abusive to the child (abusive to you is not enough)
Even if you gave him all of the money, he could later try and get access and he'd probably get some as kids have the right to see their Dad except in extreme circumstances.

If he loves money then I assume he'd rather work than have the kids. Having the kids would mean paying you less but on weekdays he'd be paying for nurseries etc which will almost certainly be more than maintenance. He can't get around this by asking for all weekends either. He'd have to do 50% of weekdays and he can't cheat the system by picking the kids up from your house after work and dropping them off in the morning so he's done an overnight. If Wednesday is "his" day he has to collect from nursery and drop off the next day plus he should pay if he works on a Wednesday iyswim.

Yy to legal advice.

Do not give him all the money.

See a solicitor ASAP. He will get some access (and rightly so) but men like this always shout they want shared care but in reality don't often go through with it because they are too lazy and selfish to parent equally.