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Divorce/separation

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Advice from a friend

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Jools83 · 10/02/2021 00:45

Hi everyone! new here and currently lying awake due to comments that a friend keeps making to me about my separation from my long term partner. I have left him. It has been as amicable as possible and I have moved into my own place. We still keep in touch as we have a dog between us which is our baby 🐶. I have a friend who said to me today ‘oh you must be lonely being on your own’ when I told her I was fine and actually quite enjoying my alone time she told me that the loneliness would hit me eventually. She also told me that she thinks I should stop seeing him and just take the dog completely and that seeing him isn’t good for me. But we are both happy with this arrangement and we are both doing fine! She makes me feel like I’m supposed to hate him and turn things toxic by taking the dog completely. Is she giving me good advice? Something about her advice makes me feel uncomfortable.

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HulaChick · 10/02/2021 07:52

No, she is definitely not giving you good advice. She's projecting on to you what she would do in your situation. If you're happy and comfortable, there is absolutely no reason why you can't continue to have a good relationship with your ex, albeit on a friends level now. Ignore your friend and definitely don't listen to her.

Jools83 · 10/02/2021 10:27

Thank you. I agree. What’s interesting is that she broke up with her husband a few years ago and it has been a really toxic breakup and I think she wants my experience to be the same!

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HulaChick · 10/02/2021 12:59

It definitely sounds that way OP! Don't let her own experience influence yours x

Bourbonbiccy · 10/02/2021 13:07

You can definitely stay amicable with your ex, it's surely the best outcome if possible and as for her going on about being lonely, surely that's a personal thing, if you're fine, you're fine.

Ignore her .

ValleysGirl72 · 13/02/2021 18:33

@ @Jools83 sounds to me that your friend is jealous of your situation

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