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Help me keep my sanity

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RedorBlack · 01/02/2021 18:56

In the process of divorcing a narcissist (have posted before about the fact he is contributing nothing financially) and I can apply for the decree absolute next week.

Four times we have reached an agreement over finances and he has changed his mind. The last time he said yes fine agreed, get the consent order drawn up. Which I did.

Chased my solicitor for an update this week abs apparently he sent it to him ages ago. Spoke to stbxh and he is not sure he wants to sign it after all. He wants SM because I earn more than him (about 25k) and also thinks if we split the kids 50/50 I will owe him CM but also doesn't want to commit to having the kids at all?

I am desperately trying not to argue in front of DC and to keep the house calm for them, how the hell do I handle this without losing either my temper or my sanity.

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AnarchicLemming · 03/02/2021 10:25

Being a narc he will make it all about money and what he can get out of it.

Instead, make it all about the kids.

What custody split is actually, objectively best for them, both now and going forward?

Decide what's acceptable for you, stick to it, expect the absolute worst from him but don't budge. He will try to bully you whichever way he can but don't be derailed, stay calm.

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