Divorce and kids with severe sen

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Has anyone been through this?
Both ex and I want best for DD.
Wondering what special considerations come up in divorce settlements.
Proposed house split is 75/25 and 50/50 pension. I can't work ft but get benefits, dla, carers, cms etc so £2.5k per month income
Anything else we should think of?
Yes dealing with solicitors/mediation but wanted real life advice too to think about until appointments

Not exactly the same situation, but have a DC mild-moderate SEN (with complex mental health issues). I've ended up having to go to court. There are specific provisions for a child with a disability.

You need to think through life-long care commitments. How will DC spend their time between parents now and when over 18. Will you need/want residential care?

How much does the other parent earn? If neither of you are high earners, there will be fewer options.

I'm a sahm and he earns £60k.
I'm pretty much never going to get my career back. I have her most of the time he has her overnight once or twice a fortnight. But really his input has stayed same as when married - regular but short periods of time together. Mostly the fun stuff.
What does "special provisions" mean? We don't know if she'll leave home.

Special provisions mean support and housing needs don’t stop at 18
He’ll need ( as will you) to be supporting her until you are both unable to , or dead ( sorry to sound blunt!) and what happens then?

If she won’t ever live independently you’ll need to figure out what support ( and costs of that ) look like

You should get advice. Your DD may be entitled to Legal Aid for her own representative to put forward her needs. She might need more than the standard child maintenance payment. You might want to ask for global maintenance for you and her.

It's complicated so do shop around for an experienced solicitor who has done similar divorce cases.

90% housing, 80% pension and at least 30% of all lifetime income on top of CMS.

You won’t get what missbipolar is suggesting. You need to be realistic. He won’t be expected to hand over practically all assets and 50% of his income !

Somewhere on this site is a post that explains it really clearly and goes through everything. I don’t know how to find it to link to.

Normal babysitter costs $x. Specialist babysitter will cost $y.
Transport to nearest school costs x. Transport to special school will cost y.
Holidays cost x. Respite care will cost y.
Housing costs x. Specialist housing will cost y.

Etc. Etc. Etc. If you can find that post, a lot of your thinking will be done for you.

You're all really helpful thank you.
I don't want global maintenance tho as this would be treated as income and come out of my UC. So I'd be much worse off.
Where we're at now leaves us with equal amounts of spending money after our bills etc.