Tell me it's ok to seperate just cos I'm unhappy

[PeachTree22]

I've been in a state of relationship limbo for a couple of years. Wondering whether to leave my husband. We have a 2 year old child.
He's been horrible to me at times. I'm sure I've not been perfect but have earned him about the way he speaks to me. I've finally just found the courage to leave, telling him I want space. But he wants answers and Im pretty certain I've decided I would be happier on my own for a while. He's sucked the life out of me to be honest and I just wanna heal myself so I can be the best mum to my child.
I guess I've left him emotionally but actually telling him and doing it is hard.
And I keep going back and forth in my limbo state of can I really push myself to make it work. If I can, then shouldn't I. I made the choice to marry him so it seems unfair to just walk away.

It's doing my head in to be honest

You don't need to ask anyone's permission about whether your level of unhappiness is 'bad' enough.

I wish society didn't put marriage on a pedestal.

Most women are afraid to leave their husbands, they think they will be condemned by society and without a husband they will be vulnerable. From my own experience I can say that as long as you are unhappy, you do not have to destroy your life, your children will understand you later. I'm glad you had the strength to be honest with yourself and make such a difficult decision. I hope you will be happy. Honestly, I also had a [url=breakupangels.com/]loveless marriage[/url] and I decided to leave, and I do not regret it.

Sooner you leave sooner your life begins do it if you really feel its right.

Very similar situation here, took me way too long to find courage - my son is 5 and I had been thinking about it since he was a baby.

Finally found the courage last year and now on the last stages of the divorce. It is horrible and difficult but I'm glad things are progressing and hopefully it will all be done soon.

Sometimes I regret not having done this earlier as I spent so many years unhappy. If I was you I would give it some serious thought and if that is your decision, do it now while your child is still young.

What have come to realise is that after a while the overwhelming feeling and fear slowly reduce, I tried to look at this from a practical point of view. I'm still petrified but also very excited for the next phase of my life x

Thankyou everyone for your replies.
I have decided to definitely leave him. And I feel at peace with my decision now. Even though people disagree with me.
Thing is, I came to realise it's not their life/happiness they are gambling with by me staying with him.
I am in the process of selling our property (he has no intention of helping and really isn't pulling his weight at all. No suprise there though)

Bring on the next chapter. I am very excited by it x

Well done on making this decision. I know how difficult it is!

My husband was the same, making things very difficult as he didn't want to accept it but over time has become more understanding (although sometimes still acts like a complete idiot!) and also began accepting this will be better for all of us. We are still working a few things out but it has been over a year now and I cannot wait for the divorce to be final!

It can be a long process, stay calm and remember why you are doing this.

Good luck :) x